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Friday, November 16, 2012

NaBloPoMo Day 16: When Adoption Narratives are Lists of Challenges

Every adoption conversation is in its own way unique. However there are definitely observable trends in adoption discourse. One such trend occurs in adoption reform discussions, whether in-person, at a meeting, or in the comments section of an adoption article online. Someone will suggest a problem within adoption that needs to be fixed or even suggest alternatives to adoption where families can be helped and preserved. Subsequently, someone will respond with an exhaustive list about all the things that were wrong with their child's original mother, or father, or their own original mother or father, as a reason why adoption does not need to be reformed or why there's no need to explore alternatives to adoption for children and families in need. While they may make their point in expressing how a child needed a new home and received one that benefited them (granted, if the agency/facilitator version of the pre-adoption narrative is accurate), this communication sends an additional message loud and clear: original parents are effectively reduced to "challenges."

For today's blogging prompt, Lost Daughters asks:

Some adoptive parents share more than others for various reasons. How much of your adoptive parents’ story has been shared with you? If they shared details about your adoption with you, how did that make you feel? If they did not, do you wish they had? Did your parents share with you why they choose to adopt? Did they share that story with others in your life? If so, did it affect you in any ways?